What Are You Supposed To Do When Someone Cheats On You? This Is What Not To Do
Don’t do this
1. Never take revenge
You will be tempted to talk bad, destroy property, or have an affair too so that he/she may feel the same pain that you felt, but the truth is, it’s going to end up hurting you more. Don’t try to take revenge by telling your kids your affairs. It will create more fights and distrust in your relationship and also ruin the psychosocial stability of your children. Moreover, it will prolong the healing process.
2. Don’t forget to love yourself
If you love exercising, don’t stop doing what you love because of the situation in your life. If you are an outgoing person or you love dressing up, continue doing what makes you happy so as to be at peace with yourself. Take care of yourself more than ever; rise above the problem.
3. Don’t involve the kids
If you have kids, be very careful what you tell them about your spouse. Solve the issues between you and your spouse and keep those matters away from your kids. Don’t make your children think that they have to choose one parent over the other. Just let them know that you love them and you will always be there for them no matter what happens. Otherwise, you might make them believe it’s their fault and they will obviously grow up with self-esteem issues.
4. Never let other people make decisions for you
Sometimes friends will tell you to live him/her. On the other hand, your mom might tell you give your relationship another chance. It’s upon you to make a decision. Don’t let other people decide for you. Otherwise, you will always think about “what could have been.” Make choices and learn to live with them.
5. Don’t let every Tom, Dick and Harry know
You may want to reach out to someone and pour your heart out to them, but be very careful who you let in. Most people will laugh at you, half of the others will ask you to leave, and the other half will now have juicy gossip for your other group of friends. So where does that leave you? Talk to a friend that you find wise, intelligent, and worthy to be a confidant. Also, don’t let your family know right away what happened if there is a chance that you will fix the situation; especially if your parents will contribute to being part of the problem. They could end up hating your spouse. When you get back together, your spouse will suffer the brunt of all the hatred. If you have no plans of fixing it, go right ahead and consult them on the matter.
6. Never ignore what happened
It’s easy to ignore what happened, but it’s advisable to face the situation head on. Face your fears and deal with the wrong that has been committed. If you ignore the whole thing, you will never move on. You will always hold a nasty grudge towards your partner. You know all too well that carrying grudges is tiring to the one doing the carrying than to the other person. Seek closure and move on. Don’t dwell.