How To Tell If You Are A Toxic Friend – 8 Warning Signs!
How To Tell If You Are A Toxic Friend
Sometimes we meet people, and we automatically connect but sometimes, you just don’t like each other’s guts. Meeting people is part of life, accepting people into your life, on the other hand, is a major choice one has to grapple with. Friendship is about connection, respect, and love. We all want to have meaningful friendships that are both healthy and bring happiness.
Here are signs that you fall into the toxic friend category:
1. You are perpetually negative
One sure sign is when you do not see anything good in life, and you do not appreciate or recognize anything good that comes your way. Sometimes, we feel helpless but always remember that in every situation there is good. Surround yourself with positive people and read material that inspires or motivates you.
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2. You are inconsistent akin a watermelon
You lack consistency in your words. You are a sniper and a snitch, which means you are not to be trusted in anyway. Consistent people are people of high quality; they always put themselves in others’ shoes. It is just proper to be reliable.
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3. You are not empathetic
You are toxic if you do not care about other people’s feelings. You say things that hurt people and act like everything is alright. You do not apologize and reassure your friends. Apologize to people when you have wronged them and try to consider their feelings. I know of people who have no clue how hurtful they are with the words that come out of their mouths and it’s not a good look for anyone.
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4. You are always unhappy
Negative people are not happy people. They are not content and often complain too much. If you find yourself wanting to compete with your friends, it is because you have esteem issues. Be content with where you are, don’t compete with other people or try to show your friends you are better than them. Living your life, and being content is the only way to enjoy life. There will always be someone who is in a better position than you – fact. Try to outdo yourself not others.
5. You are full of drama
You complicate stuff and make it seem like everything has to end up in arguments. Unless you are in a court of law, this is unacceptable! People like these live in a bubble and argue over the smallest stuff. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion, respect other people’s opinion, and don’t be petty. You will only have yourself to blame if you end up looking like a fool.
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6. You are a pathological liar
You lie a lot to your friends to maintain an image. You tell lies that couldn’t be further from the truth. Think of it this way; after you are done trying extra hard to keep an image, you are the only one who will suffer the consequences. People forget about what you told them during the day and go to sleep peacefully no matter how hard you try. Tell the truth no matter what and like the saying goes – the truth will always set you free.
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7. You are judgmental
You are too quick to judge. You are not willing to hear the other person’s side of the story. Don’t judge the book by its cover, give people a chance.
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8. An attitude as nasty as AF
You have a bad attitude about everything. If you are one to make every waiter your problem or complain about otherwise good food and never appreciate anything, you are toxic. I am well aware that there are times that waiters are in over their heads, but many times, some people just raise storms in teacups. Maintain an aura of positive energy by surrounding yourself with positive people. Remember, it is all in your mind; keep reminding yourself of the way you are working towards being a better person every day.
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