How To Identify If Your Child Has Recently Been Sexually Assaulted | 11 Warning Signs
Can You Tell If Your Child Has Been Sexually Assaulted?
Most of the times, parents are usually busy at work to ensure their families don’t stay without food or stay out in the cold. Leaving your child in the care of someone is not an easy feat, there’s always that fear that it could turn out to be disastrous. We have all seen the blood curdling videos of house helps/domestic workers abusing vulnerable children without parents ever knowing.
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It is vital that parents be cautious who they entrust their kids to, because not everyone is trustworthy. It is also important to know that both male and female house helps can assault children of either sex.
What does sexual assault include?
- Touching a child’s privates to derive sexual pleasure
- Tricking a child to touch one’s genitals, putting objects into their private parts, including actual intercourse
- Showing porn films to children
- Taking inappropriate photos of a child
- Deliberately undressing in the presence of a child or intentionally having sexual acts while a child is watching
- Any other behavior which is done with the intention of drawing sexual pleasure and fulfilling sexual thoughts or desires.
Here are 11 signs that your child has probably been sexually assaulted
1. Your Child Suddenly Loses Confidence
Have you noticed a sudden loss of confidence in your child? When a child has been sexually assaulted, you will notice that he or she will suddenly lose an interest in playing with other kids yet he/she loved it before. You will notice he/she will stop being active in school and at home.
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Try to reach out to your child and get to the root of the problem. If you suspect sexual abuse, secretly install a nanny cam to watch the goings on in the house.
2. Your Child Suddenly Has Trust Issues
Children are born full of love and often trust people easily. Once a child has a bad experience with someone, they begin to have trust issues. If you notice that your child is suddenly, constantly crying when you are leaving for work, do some investigations about what is happening when you leave him/her with the house help.
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3. Your Child Suddenly Shows Sexual Interests
If your child suddenly begins to show sexual awareness and to use adult sexual terms, it is probably because he/she has been exposed to sexual activities. The child could also start using new words for private parts; apart from the ones you taught him/her. Ask your child where they learned such words.
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4. Opposite Attraction At An Early Age
If your child is below 10 years and he/she seems like they are already sexually attracted to children of the opposite sex, you need to investigate if there is something wrong. Nanny cams can help you investigate whether the caregiver is sexually assaulting him/her.
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5. Your Child Suddenly Has Sores
If your child begins to show signs of unexplained bruises, be very alert. Your child could display signs of soreness or bruises in certain areas such as the mouth or genitals. Watch for signs of difficulty walking or sexually transmitted diseases.
6. Your Child Suddenly Has Issues Undressing
If your child had no problems undressing when it is time to take a bath, to go to bed, to go to the toilet, or change diapers, but suddenly starts resisting, the child was probably sexually assaulted. You might also notice wetting and soiling accidents more often yet there were none, or were far and few between before.
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5 Other Vital Signs:
- Unusual fear around certain people
- Playing explicit sexual games with other children that tend to turn physical
- Has unexplained gifts, money, and toys
- Is overly erratic and displays withdrawal, anger, or insecurity
- Unexplained change in eating habits such as refusing to eat, trouble swallowing, or extremely high appetite.
Common things that children below 8 years do which doesn’t necessarily imply sexual assault
- Innocent touching or rubbing of genitals
- Innocently showing or looking at their privates
- Asking about where children come from
It is also important to consider that children start to behave differently in times of high stress such as divorce, problems at school with friends, or death of family members or pets.